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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It may be normal or something that happens, but it doesn't make it good. I went through this myself, it sucks. Just because friends may have some different interests, it's not ok to just dump your friends. A kid shouldn't have to load up on activities just to make friends.[/quote]

On the other hand, at 6th you can make your own friends and don't have to hang out with someone just because your friendship is the basis of your parents' friendship. ES friends are heavily based on parents and proximity, but middle school they start to be more about the kids themselves and groups naturally break up and reform [/quote]

ES friends based on proximity maybe, but the ones based on parents only happens when the parents are over involved in their kids lives. When moms go to the bus stop each day instead of letting them walk home with who they want to. When you put them in activities based on others instead of your own kid’s actual interests. When moms stay at the birthday party to socialize. Who did Larla really want invite?

A wise mom once told me to never ever let mom friends become your real friends. Just your hi and bye friends. This is neighborhood, school, and sports mom friends. You will subconsciously do more harm than good to your own kids. And they will emulate you and follow the hand and forget her own personality and interests. She will want to do an activity because others do. She won’t even ask herself if she would truly like it. And then you get into middle school and the following becomes worse. You are stripping your child of their own childhood and identity. 
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