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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She needs to diversify friends. Never a good idea to have all eggs in one basket for this very reason. When this was happening with my DD it was b/c she wasn't mature enough at the time: still enjoyed kid things, wasn't interested in boys, etc. And that's fine. But . . .

It's still a jerk move for the kids. 
[b]It's a jerk move for the parents, who ABSOLUTELY know.
As long as their jerk kids are included, the jerk moms don't care that yours is not. [/b]Fact. And any attempts to call them on it will backfire on you and your kid. I've seen it happen a million times with other kids (not my own as I know better).

If you're recoiling at the word jerk, it's b/c you are one. Do better. Teach your kids better. You don't have to include everyone all the time. But these kids are openly excluding. Either speak up about why or quit being jerks.[/quote]

I would not assume the bolded is true.  I have 3 girls and we have been on both ends of this.  It is incredibly hard to see your kid get excluded from a friend group.  However, at this age, it never works out when parents try to intervene and force friendships.  One of my daughters is currently struggling because she has grown apart from her best friend and is feeling guilty about it.  The best friend is kind and sweet but very quiet and my dd doesn't find her very fun to be around anymore. I definitely care that this best friend is noticing the shift and is likely feeling hurt, but I also think my dd is entitled to grow apart from friends and form new friendships. I don't think it is mean even if it is hurtful.

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