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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh look, teen mom is trying to stir up trouble again.

Nope, so happy I had my 20s to party and travel and make and spend a lot of money on frivolous things that only 20-somethings can spend it on, Those opportunities just aren't available to 40+ empty nesters, as much y'all think you are going to be fabulous in your 40s, you won't be partying in Ibiza and Goa and having a lot of hot, hot sex with people you just met. #sorrynotsorry

Also, now I have a shit ton of money to spend on my kids and amazing experiences for them (still having hot, hot sex, just not with strangers, rather with one of the people I met overseas).[/quote]

You're making this emotional and it isn't.

I mean lots of people never visit Goa or Ibiza, in fact, I'd say a minority does.  You can always have lots of hot hot sex with people you've just met right here. Not everyone values being fabulous.

I think so many of these discussions predictably devolve into mudslinging as people perceive them as personal attacks.

I also think that the discussion of "choosing" to have children late is often misguided when it presents this as a choice.  For many of us, it isn't.  Like, we didn't meet a man who was willing to marry and procreate until 35+; if we did, we would have easily have children earlier.   It's not about regretting your life. It's about, in retrospect, if I could design it all from scratch, would I choose the same thing or not? Of course we never have this chance but it's fun to reflect.[/quote]

Yes. It wasn’t a choice to have kids late. For me I reached a certain age and realized either I could have a child without a partner or wait for a partner and risk never having a child. So there was a choice to have a child but would never have designed my life to have a child this late. Of course I am a much much better parent now than I would have been in my 20s and 30s and my health is much better so no regrets. However I would advise people to have kids earlier than I did if they are in a position to.  No goa or Ibiza or hot sex life for me when I was younger - just work/school and being ill and trying to survive.  Adding a kid to the mix then would have been a very bad idea. [/quote]

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