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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I agree.

My seventh grader’s teacher told them recently that their job was to spend the next 10 years understanding themselves and learning to be a good friend so that they can be the kind of person that their future spouse can rely on. Part of that might be dating later in high school, but there is no need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at 13. And that talk of crushes might make people feel uncomfortable around their peers at school.

I thought it was good advice. I liked his stance."

Nah. This isn't a brain thing, it's a mind and heart thing. Did you never have a mad crush on someone when you were in middle or high school?! That's not something you can control. It's just a feeling that is there. Maybe you choose to never act on it, but it's perfectly normal for a kid who hits puberty to feel that rush.

And even if it might avoid some angst and tears if they "wait" to have a romantic relationship, who thinks that waiting TEN long years makes any sense whatsoever??? I say this as someone who was an extremely high achiever in high school and went to HYSP and on to grad school, so don't start with the arguments that teenagers should focus on their studies and extracurriculars because they can do both. And the last message I would want to send to my teenage kids is that they should be preparing themselves for marriage. Marriage should be the last thing on their minds at that age. [/quote]

The argument was that kids should focus on becoming better partners in the future and on being good and kind people to their classmates now.  
Despite popular belief, having lots of extracurriculars and attending HYSP is not synonymous with being a good person or a good partner.

And if you aren’t going to talk to your kids about how to be a good person/partner or what to look for in a partner when they are teens, then when are you going to talk to them about it? 
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