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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How on earth could this make you miserable? You aren't going to school there, your kid is. You can't make polite conversation for 5 minutes with whoever sits next to you on parent night?[/quote]

There you are! You're the person OP is talking about.[/quote]

OP said SHE doesn’t like the other parents.  When I encounter people I don’t particularly care for, I make conversation when I see them and move on with my life. It doesn’t make ME miserable if I don’t like someone. OP didn’t say the other parents were being rude or mean or exclusive. That would bother me, too. [/quote]

are you being purposefully obtuse?  It would seem so.

OP doesn't like the other parents because they are insular, not friendly, etc.  I'm sure she has tried to have conversations with them.  She is likely seeking friendship and being rebuffed.  Or maybe is having her conversations rebuffed entirely.  
It's not crazy nor pathetic to want to make friends at your kids' school.  We made most of our DC friends at our kids' schools.  We moved here not knowing a soul.  Sure, I'd love to pick up hobbies or volunteer work as a source of friends but I don't have a ton
of time for that between my kids and my job.  It would have been a major bummer if I felt like I was given the cold shoulder at my kids' school.  I'm not alone in thinking this.

These posts about friendship and/or snobbiness on DCUM never go well.  Half the posters commiserate with the OP and the other half essentially make fun of the OP and others like her for being pathetic or weak enough to want to make friends in their school community. 
It's always the same outcome.

OP--please know that you're not alone.  I'm not sure what the answer is besides 1)find a few people you connect with at the school and really invest in them--invite them over for dinner, etc.  2) change schools.  Often it's just a grade that is toxic.  You may just need to leave.  [/quote]

No, I’m not. I’ve met a lot of people who are hostile about rich people or sahms, and so they assume they will not like anyone at private. Another poster in this thread said it : “This is part of the reason we don't do private. Your kids peers are children of these jerks. Most kids who go to private come from unfettered privilege and aren't taught any perspective. The parents are obnoxious AF.”

I’m a working mom who came from a blue collar family, and yeah, there are people who aren’t necessarily going to be my best friends because I don’t travel on a private plane to the Caribbean every long weekend, I don’t understand their clothes, and I’m not at the volunteer things they participate in because I have to go to work. But they are perfectly nice people that I can chat with on the sidelines or sit next to at the holiday concert. Beyond that there are A LOT of families in a school, and there are a significant number of families like mine. They might be harder to find because both parents are working! It would be a shame if I had written them all off as vapid billionaires. The sahms are more visible because they are available to volunteer (and I thank them for doing so). But assuming the whole school is like that group - and I’m sure that group is horrible in some schools and great in others — isn’t fair.

If people are being mean to OP or purposely excluding her; then yes that is awful. But that’s not what she said. She said SHE doesn’t like the other parents. IME when people say that they are referring to wealth and sahms and their preconceived notions about both. 
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