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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, obviously all other things being equal, 1 child is a lot less work than 2 or 3+.

I have 3 under 9 and we are busy. I am still able to workout a bit because work is flexible and I work from home so I always find time to go for a 30 min run. Money is much tighter than if we were only putting 2 child through private school, etc.

But I also would never want to have an only and that’s why I have 3. My kids play (and sometimes fight) together all the time, they have their own unique relationships and they are teaching so much to one another. [b]My kids’ lives are so much richer than they would have been had they been onlies[/b].

We all prioritize and want different things. The lucky ones are the ones that are able to have what they want… including parents of onlies. [/quote]

The bolded is not true but I'm glad you got the family you want and it sounds like your kids are having a great childhood. But that's a loaded judgment that is false, it's like people who don't think you can have a meaningful life without becoming a parent or people who think SAHMs can't have intellectual stimulation in their lives. It's based on a narrow experience that assumes the alternatives are not as good. They are, they are just different.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

Eh.  I’m a NP who also has three kids.  [b]That they have each other as siblings enriches their lives in specific ways, [/b]at least as children.  It also means trade-offs of less enrichment around things like specialized camps, lots of activities and extracurriculars, etc., because we don’t have the resources (of all kinds) to give those to each kid.  I wouldn’t necessarily say my kids live richer lives than only children, but they do have sibling relationships that only children, by definition, don’t have.  Mostly, so far, I think those are for the better.

I also work FT and have time to myself.  My youngest is six, which helps, but I have always made time for daily exercise and with friends, at the very least.  Now I’m at the point of being able to read for pleasure, which I love.  If I really wanted to do a pottery class or something, DH and I could work it out.  I also agree with a PP who said to embrace this season of life - I signed up to be a working mom of three kids, so I’m certainly not going to complain about it.  I feel like I won the damn lottery.[/quote]

My wife’s sister was problematic since she was a child. She loves her but has often said she thinks her childhood would have been better without her. A good friend has a similar thing with her younger brother. One reason among many that we’re sticking with one. [/quote]

That’s a mean thing to “often” say about your sister.

Does your wife just say this about her sister, or does she have a list of people that she thinks her life would be better without?[/quote]

My siblings was horrible to me and I my husband would say tis but I'm the younger.  My parents made it clear I was an accident and treat me as such.  My  husband helped me stand up to them and separate from them and my life has been so much better without their negativity.  [/quote]

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