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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an only in large part because I thought DH and I would struggle with 2+.  We're introverts, we have other caretaking responsibilities, DH has executive function issues, etc etc. So while yes 1 kid is less work, it's about as much work as we can handle and neither of us is lolling about wondering what to do with our time. I would hate to think my boss or coworkers is making assumptions about my life based on my having one kid.[/quote]

+1, we had one in part for financial reasons and in part because I have a history of depression and while it is reasonably well-managed it takes work that I think would be hard to accomplish with more kids. I had one kid so I could be a good mother to one kid, instead of having two kids and struggling to take care of myself and them at the same time. I know there are people who think I have it "easy" because I have one kid but these are not people who know that there are times in my past where a good day was one where I managed to get out of bed and go to work instead of simply staying in bed all day staring at a wall. I have no shame in saying that baseline for me is different than it might be for someone else, and my ability to be a pretty great parent is a massive victory for me. I good care less that someone else thinks it's not that hard. It's hard enough.[/quote]

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