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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, obviously all other things being equal, 1 child is a lot less work than 2 or 3+.

I have 3 under 9 and we are busy. I am still able to workout a bit because work is flexible and I work from home so I always find time to go for a 30 min run. Money is much tighter than if we were only putting 2 child through private school, etc.

But I also would never want to have an only and that’s why I have 3. My kids play (and sometimes fight) together all the time, they have their own unique relationships and they are teaching so much to one another. My kids’ lives are so much richer than they would have been had they been onlies.

We all prioritize and want different things. The lucky ones are the ones that are able to have what they want… including parents of onlies. [/quote]

I also have 3 but onliest also have rich lives- and the parents are the ones to import this richness.  Having a 'rich' life with a lot of meaning, connections, depth of feeling isn't dependent on how many kids, parents, etc you have. It is dependent on how people choose to interact with each other and the experiences that you have.  In one way, my friends who fled repressive regimes- they had rich textured childhoods crammed with meaning due to their suffering, I lost a parent at an unusually early age- that grief and loss and suffering has ultimately enriched my life b/c it changed me and made me a stronger more self aware person. Having an only, being an only, having  siblings.  whatever life throws at you- it doesnt make your experience more rich in comparison to someone else, it just makes the  source of your life experience different.  I dont like this shade thrown at parents of onllies that somehow their children are living skim milk lives, that they are lonely. Some people are just lonely, go look on the families board- plenty f lonely people with siblings. I have a sibling, she couldn't care less if I lived or died really. Shed be shocked if I said that but its the truth- it wouldn't change her life or matter in the long run at all.  And we get along fine, no estrangement or anything. [/quote]

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