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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was your daughter.  I was told 'in-state' only.  My dad always talked about coming out without any loans and that if I went that route they'd pay for my undergrad.

I'm 52 and I do feel that I definitely could have gone to a higher 'ranked' university and when people get snooty about universities and their alma mater and ask where I went it used to rankle me a lot.  A lot has to do with the fact I am much wealthier than my parents now and our neighborhood is filled with Ivies and SLAC alum and I'm even married to a guy that went to a very prestigious top 10 university because he was poor and got pell grants and all kinds of financial merit aid to do so.  I was #15 out of a Fairfax County HS of ~550 in my grade, a 4-year varsity sports (and hs state champ), SCA Officer, clubs, etc., you name it.

I loved my time in college and received a great education.  I did major and receive a graduate degree in STEM so when these liberal arts/lawyers start getting hoity toity about their alma mater, I can throw that out because my degree in and of itself is in an impressive field...and I have a good career.  My graduate school was paid for through a teaching stipend and scholarship so my dad was right about the benefit of coming out of all of that with no student loan debt.

I love Wall Street when Gordon Gekko in Wall Street drops the line "Yeah not bad for a City College boy. I bought my way in now all these Ivy League schmucks are sucking me kneecaps"  and I love that some of the people with the 'big name' degrees work for me now--I won't lie :lol: .

And, I had a helluva lot more fun at my big State University than my husband had at his pressure cooker non-party school![/quote]

You have issues.

And City College is like a community college.  Miles away from state school[/quote]

Wjat issue is it that you think she has?[/quote]

Insecure/status conscious/general feeling of less then for no particular reason

Memorizing your high school rank and comparing your school to random peers in your 50s is odd. [b] Acting like a state flagship is comparable to an inner city two year college is also strange.[/b] [/quote]

Idiot.  The point Gekko was making was against the elite, spoon-fed people handed their positions looking down on anyone with the private school/Ivy degree.  And, when you are in these circles, you see it ALL of the time.  It's almost comical.  They will find a way to name drop their alma mater in any way they can.

You, my friend, sound like the one that is insecure.  Maybe you identify too much with the people Gekko was mocking.[/quote]

Class rank was big in the 'olden days'.  There was ONE valedictorian and our class rank was printed on every report card.  This was back in the late 80s.  Anyone vying for the top 1% of their class definitely knew (and remembers) their rank.   It was a big deal.

In the current climate of no class ranks provided, tremendous grade inflation and 1/2 of the class being designated 'rank 1/Valedictorian', I can see why there would be a lack of understanding.[/quote]

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