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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry I wasn't the parent you needed me to be. I hope you can find peace and the help you need. I am here for you and want to support you as best I can.[/quote]

This!! I also went to therapy around 28 as really strongly suggested by my mom. I actually had no major issues but she wanted me to "fix" something in my behavior. Through therapy work and actually remembering and going through the interactions with my parents as a kid and teen and young adult it was clear that their good intentions weren't helping me. They were trying to raise the child they wanted to have instead of the one we had. I got some good advice on how to approach my relationship and interactions with them. And its been much better. Also because we had some very frank conversations with my mom and her expectations and how she talks with me. She realized she meant well but it wasn't working so shes much more unconditionally supportive now. And doesn't start every conversation with "well thats a stupid idea, you should do this and this instead". She listens! And asks if she can offer advice instead. Of course I'm 40 now and she still tells me not to slouch. Because thats helped and changed something in the 40 years she's been telling me to stand up straight :)[/quote]

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