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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is like this. He will not change so you need to figure out if you can deal with it. You can't make anyone a planner just as you can't force someone to be a spontaneous person. You either are or you aren't. [/quote]
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My husband is like this. But he also never complains about anything I plan and is appreciative. It works for us. At first it bothered me but I also realize I’m more opinionated and can just plan what I want. [/quote]

Do you ever feel resentful that you are spending so much time researching, calling, etc. and he just gets to sit back and enjoy what you planned? And what about for your birthday and Valentine's Day- do you also plan those?[/quote]
I was early in our marriage but I realize I’m also part of the problem in that I’m somewhat picky about accommodations and just care more than he does/like things more planned. The only time I got really pissed was trips I didn’t want to do like visit his mother. I just don’t plan them anymore and they don’t happen and that’s how it is. Also somewhat of a win. But vacations? I didn’t grow up getting to take vacations and feel grateful I get to take them, he makes more $ and has a stressful job so that’s his contribution. He’s enjoyable and fun on the vacations and it works for us. 
Valentines and birthdays - yeah i also plan those. Not a huge deal in our house for adult birthdays. 
He’s a planner in his career though. He just doesn’t find vacations or social plans at the top of his priorities. [/quote]

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