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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im apparently the one woman here who thinks that OP may be overreacting. Columbus Day is 3.5 weeks away. You have plenty of time to figure out the plans for the long weekend, esp since you are travelling without kids so you can be more flexible.

I mean honestly, is the whole point to go away together and have a fun weekend adventure just the two of you, or is the point to go on the best, most planned out, perfect vacation ever?

Let him plan the weekend without your booking “backup hotels”. Whats the worst that will happen? You spend 2 nights in a best western somewhere and have to wait at the bar for a table a few times? If you really like this guy, that should be good enough. [/quote]

Pp here. I dont mean “good enough” as in “accept what you get” which was not my intention. But it seems to me that you are looking at this weekend differently than he is. For you it seems to be a huge big romantic weekend away, some kind of litmus test for your relationship. Will this be your first time sleeping together or traveling together? Is this why this is such a big deal for you? He wants to spend the weekend together. He told you so and you guys have plans to do so. You dont have kids that weekend, he doesnt have kids that weekend, you both have 3 days off, you have plans to spend the weekend together. That sounds like a fun weekend to me. 3 weeks is plenty of time to figure out which hotel to stay in. Its Columbus Day weekend, its not 4th of July weekend. Its not a huge demand travel weekend. There are plenty of places you can go and find a nice hotel and have a nice romantic weekend.

Seriously, this relationship may work, it may not. Who knows, time will tell.  But why is it so important that he book a hotel over 3 weeks before a random Columbus Day weekend trip? Are you planning to try and go to a small town with one hotel that books up months in advance and he is missing the booking window? Do you plan to go to somewhere like French Laundry and have to make arrangements around getting a hard to get reservation? Why cant you just let him plan this weekend the way he wants to? He may not be planning it the way that you would, but give him a chance. It is over three weeks away and you have already deemed him a failure for not over-planning. You havent even left on the trip yet and have already decided that the weekend will fail and/or you are going to bail on him and do something without him if he doesnt plan it your way.

At the end of the day, whats the worst thing that will happen? You spend 2 nights in a best western? [/quote]

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