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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately this is the generation of mom lead play dates and activities.  Kids didn’t have to make friends cause mom organized it for you.  They just have to learn to make friends the old fashion way. We all did it and survived.[/quote]

We may have grown up in the same generation, but I also learned that "if you don't have something nice to say, then don't say it at all."

Come on, a lot of these "mom lead" playdates were extinct by middle school. There are some kids who are quiet (read the book) and may need suggestions on how to handle these kinds of new situations, which one may find both overwhelming and exhausting (at risk, then, to be reinforcing). Hey, my extrovert daughter is struggling in the early weeks of college. It can be hard.

A shout out to the aunt for caring about her niece and trying to be of help. [/quote]

+1000

Also, note that many of the current college freshman spend 1.5 years of HS at home doing it virtually.  Even for their senior years, many (my own kid included) it was NOT normal.  They did not have the same interactions/meeting new people that would have happened pre-covid.  So they did not really "meet" new people/develop new friendships past Feb of their sophomore year of HS.  While they will ultimately be just fine in life, it can be daunting for an introvert/anxious/quite person to have to put themselves out there in a totally new situation after 2.5 years of the old environment.

And yes, many extroverts struggle with being at college as well because starting everything new is challenging for everyone. But if they are stuggling, imagine what it's like for someone who does not enjoy being in large groups/does not derive energy from large groups.  Their are mentally drained by lunchtime from the constant meeting of new people/group activities/etc.  So even if they put themselves out there, they may need a lot of time to "recharge" their energy levels.   For my kid, the recharging at home occurred by being with the close group of 3-4 friends (they were all besties, no girl drama thru MS/HS, just fully supporting each other and being there).  So in a new environment, she did not have that close group so it's hard.   My kid had a full week of orientation---while great in concept, my kid probably would prefer only 3-4 days and then onto classes.  But I get where the smaller school is going with a full week to acclimate. [/quote]

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