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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. [b]I actually wanted him to reach out[/b], either directly or via others, especially because he felt bad right away. He didn't apologize until he was called out. Like a previous PP said, [b]maybe he was hoping I didn't recognize him. That was what I meant about showing his character.[/b] Mistakes happen, but willingly owning up to it goes a long way.

I will keep an eye on PPD/anxiety. Thanks to those who pointed this out.[/quote]

But here’s the thing. If most people recognize that the healthy response is something like “wow, that was scary. Glad it wasn’t an actual accident. Time to move on with my day and be extra careful because I can’t rely on everyone else to be perfect 100% of the time.” Then most people wouldn’t think to reach out and apologize to someone whose contact info they don’t even have. It’s not necessarily a lack of character, it’s more like not making a mountain out of a molehill. I’m sure he felt bad that he made a mistake, but I’m also pretty sure that because it was a non issue, he forgot about it quickly until he was reminded of it when his wife’s brother called to complain about a thing that could’ve happened but didn’t. So he probably responded more apologetically than usual because it’s becoming a big deal and more people are getting involved, where typically people would resolve to be more careful and move on with their day. [/quote]

[b]I would agree with this except he was outraged when the same thing happened to him[/b].[/quote]

You need help. You can't let any part of this go. You are going to punish this man for being an imperfect human and not apologizing to you in the moment in the way you wanted him to? I see why your they are not close with you. This likely isn't the first time you've had an out of line reaction.

If you are not suffering from PPD/A, you are suffering from something else. [/quote]
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You're perseverating on this and digging yourself in to be more outraged and make bigger and more negative judgments about this guy's whole character.  It's excessive.  Sometimes people make mistakes when driving, and I guarantee you have, too.  No one was hurt, he said he felt bad.  Let it go.  Get over yourself.  [/quote]

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