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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You set him up to fail by not only putting him in charge of something so important for a family event, but also adding an extra mystery size of an identical product into the mix. My husband can be a bit careless sometimes. Two things:

1) I would put him in charge of packing, but if it was something mission-critical like wedding wear, I’d either double check the items were packed myself, or I would ask him, “Did you pack Jimmy and Bobby’s tuxes?”

2) Going into a situation like that, I would have already removed the extraneous size from the mix and stored it or what have you.

For anyone who claims that would be enabling bad behavior…yeah, but he’s clearly not going to become a careful, think-it-through, follow-through person overnight just because of magical thinking.

For everyday stuff, if he forgets to pack his own sunglasses for the beach, oh well, looks like he’ll have to go to Sunsations and make do with what he can find. For a family wedding involving flights, I’m going to make sure we all have our full and proper outfits packed.

We play to our strengths: I help keep him organized, and he’s the one who talks me down when I’m spiraling out from anxiety. [/quote]

I asked him a week ago if he returned the one that didn’t fit and he said no and I asked before if he remembered the tuxes. He then packed them abd I reminded him he needed to get the shoes as well.

I need him to handle this because it’s his family and he’s in the bridal party and on all the communication and in the wedding party too. I didn’t get all the emails, updates etc. what to order. [/quote]

Then…WHY ARE YOU ASKING US? Sounds like you told him he was in charge, he failed, and your kid wore a wrong size. What do you need from us? Would you like a cookie, a validation stamp, or urging for divorce? How can we help you know how to feel?[/quote][/quote]

To what the con census is which is that women need to do it all and I’m wrong and setting him up for failure if he had a task. [/quote]

Yeah, that kind of things tend to happen when you ***fail to provide all relevant details in your opening post.*** See how that works?[/quote]

No, one poster made this assumption and wrote about it and others took it as the truth. [/quote]

No, you were unclear.

After your clarifications, I am even less on your side.

You emphasize this was his family's wedding, that he ordered the tuxes, that he packed the wrong ones. Ok, he screwed up. But why do YOU care? It sounds like this was a task that was important to him and he screwed it up. If anyone in his family is annoyed by how your son looked, direct them to your DH who handled it. I personally would not care about photos from a wedding from my extended ILs, that's not my issue.

This is not a story about your DH messing up something that actually matters. I mean, if he is doing stuff like forgetting to take kids to activities, picking them up an hour late from daycare, feeding them garbage, etc. -- then I'd care. But this is just a pointless thing involving his family that he messed up. Whatever. I just wouldn't think that much about it either way. If it had been important to him or someone in his family, they should have made more effort to get it right.

Of course, if it was important to you, then you should have participated to get it right. Not because you're the mom and moms have to do everything (I'm a mom, I don't do everything and don't think I have to), but because if something matters to you, don't outsource it to someone else and then get mad when they don't do it perfectly. Your DH doesn't work for you.[/quote]

Waste of $200 too.[/quote]

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