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[quote=Anonymous]Great suggestions above to get a work up with a doctor and consider whether there's a medical problem here.

Might I also add that it may not be a medical problem.  It may not be ADHD.  It may simply be that you are drowning and not getting the support you need.  In my own experience - I had a TOUGH time with my littles.  I had them very close together and my husband did not step up.  In fact, he was incredibly selfish during that period of time, even refusing to find steady work and instead hopping from entrepreneurial venture to venture (none panned out).  I was the sole breadwinner and the primary caretaker.  All while my husband was out doing boys trips, messing around, etc.

I remember so clearly one day about 5 years ago.  I had a BIG meeting at work.  My husband was off on a ski trip with his friends.  My nanny called out.  We have zero family in town.  I needed to get my kids to the drop off daycare so I could make my meeting and my 3 year old wouldn't put her socks on.  I SCREAMED at her.  It was awful.  It still makes me want to cry 5 years later.

I'm in a much better place now.  My husband stepped up big time (threatening divorce and years of marriage therapy helped) and is now a super partner - and also the breadwinner.  I've stepped way back in my career.  I haven't screamed at my kids like that for years.

Just saying... in addition to exploring ADHD, consider whether your emotions are the result of trying to do too much and not having the support you need.[/quote]

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