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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  But I’ve never seen a parent ever, ever gain anything by complaining to a school. SN or not. Schools hate demanding parents and there’s no upside to being a pain in their backside.

So set demands low, be realistic, be kind, and they tend to like you better and meet your (low) demands.  But it’s better than going in with fists up, making lots of demands and getting nothing out of the,, but teachers and admin who now hate your kid. I have friends who have gone through that. [/quote]

NP here.  As parents, we "make demands" everytime we advocate for our child.   We advocate because no school team, however well intentioned, sincere, or capable, knows everything about providing FAPE for our child.  Speaking for myself, if bringing concerns to the attention of our child's school -- in a respectful yet firm manner -- is "complaining," then so be it.  Our kids deserve nothing less.    If you don't think you can do this yourself without putting your "fists up," or have a need to be "liked," then put it in writing and/or get a professional advocate.    If the school says no, it's not "complaining" to insist that the disagreement be documented on the PWN, that your position be included and your reasons that the law supports your position.    [/quote]

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