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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yup. Mom always SAHM, was divorced w/ a child when she married my Dad. Then my parents had 3 children. Mom was jealous Dad's 1st son was his favorite, then me, Dad's oldest daughter. Mom's fav was her son (with previous husband) & youngest daughter (who may or not be my Dad's. After Dad passed, Mom changed the will so Dad's fav got 10% of the estate & if we either of us died, our spouses & children get nothing. Mom's son got 30% of estate, plus was executor + another account. Mom's fav daughter got 50%. But that wasn't all- Mom knew she was dying about a year before, and made "loans" to fav daughter, with no "payback provisions. And she changed the beneficiary on Dad's 401k & all brokerage accounts to her (we estimate over  $10M, they were opened in early 70s) , so they never went through the estate. 
While she was living Mom never had an issue asking either my brother or I for money because she was "short" & we never refused her. She would give us a list of what she wanted for a holiday gift- washer, dryer, TV, etc. AND we bought them, even if it meant a fight with our spouses.
Of course when the will was sent to us, after the funeral we were hurt & angry. Nothing we can do...except we will never speak to the two favs and there is no relationship between the grandchildren.  And both of us apologized profusely to our spouses for everything that went on) 
(And we retell this story as a precautionary tale. Although, funny when we told other relatives/ friends, they were shocked she would screw her own 2 children, but always thought she was sneaky person & not too nice).

I heard this happens more than you would think.[/quote]

I'm sorry but you sound entitled
I would not cut out family just because we inherited unequally[/quote]

I'm the pp above you, and don't consider myself entitled. My dad will die before my step mom and I would never expect her to give me $$. I know it will go to her kids. But, if my parents gave two kids the equivalent of $5m and two kids zero, yeah I would have a a hard time seeing them. [/quote]

Clearly step mom feels closer to her kids than her step kids, just like her step kids feel closer to their dad than to her. [/quote]

Yeah, except ALL 4 kids were biologically Mom''s. Dad was the stepfather to Mom's son. 
No one expects their OWN MOM to screw them over. (It's not like we ere estranged from her, which is why it was even more hurtful. And the 2 of us that got screwed believed the other 2 not only knew what was going on, they actively participated. Dad was a decent, fair man. He ALWAYS treated Mom's son, as his own & even adopted him when they got married. We did not even know he was adopted until we were grown adults. Dad's told ALL of us, that EVERYTHING was to be split evenly, 25% each, after  he and Mom passed. (So he was even willing to include the step son equal to his own biological children) 
As far as the aftermath, how can you continue a relationship with ANY person who has stabbed you in the back, when you thought everyone was on good terms, spent holidays together, etc.?
Fortunately, my DH & I are financially comfortable (not wealthy) &  although it does hurt to be financially excluded, especially under these circumstances, the emotional and psychological hurt is unforgiveable.   In retrospect, I "overlooked" many hurtful things over the years, thinking they were "by accident" or "harmless" not realizing, that people DO show you who they are. Over the years, my DH did try to tell me that certain things were not very nice or maybe even mean or spiteful, but I refused to think that my Mom or siblings would be evil or hurtful. My biggest regret is that I did not listen enough to the person who truly loves me. And I can never apologize enough or  make it up to him.  
It's not a matter of "entitlement" - it's the idea that a mother could appear to like/love her children, when that was not reality. And how she could actively ask for gifts/money/favors from those children, knowing that she planned to screw them over. And how siblings could be complicit. It's betrayal and the lack of decency.[/quote]

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