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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is so nice of you to consider, but as someone with a history of severe post partum pre-eclampsia, and in the nicest way possible, you cannot be serious.

My doctors have said I can have more kids if I want but I absolutely would NEVER put myself in that situation. Ever. In addition to the physical issues, pre-e messed with my brain, too.

Try to find another way to support your friend. [/quote]

There are doctors out there who like medically complicated patients because it makes their colleagues $$$$$$$$. I think it is dubious to transfer 2 embryos unless they are crappy quality but that happens all of the time. Anyway, this is why informed consent, doing your own research and second opinions are a thing. [/quote]

Yes, fair. To be clear: my doctors don’t encourage more kids but they have said it’s something I could do. Which is true. They do not seem enthusiastic at the prospect and I don’t want more kids anyway so it’s not like we’ve gone into a ton of detail.

But no way would I ever be allowed to be a surrogate despite two healthy babies born full term vaginally, and no flippin’ way would I ever advocate for myself to be one no matter how much I loved the parents. [/quote]

I had a doctor offer me a VBAC with less than 1mm residual myometrium, 15% uterine rupture risk (maybe more). Oh, and he didn't tell me it was that thin. I could tell from his body language he was a BS artist. [/quote]

Seems off topic, but I think doctors around here likely now feel like they have to offer VBACs?  What you saw as "bullshit artist" body language may have been him trying to suss out if you were one of those moms who was going to get super offended if he just said "I recommend a c-section" out of the gate. [/quote]

A prior doctor F-ed up a saline sonohistogram and I think he was covering for his colleague. I think his great plan was to sweep into the room and announce the baby was in distress and it was C section time. He even put in the C section note that VBAC was not contraindicated. My faith in doctors is pretty much 0 now because of this pregnancy. [/quote]

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