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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think it’s a hint to visit more. Families in other countries know that logistically there can’t be frequent visits. It’s not like American boomers who think it’s no big deal to drive for eight hours or book domestic flights frequently. She wants the items to use with or give to other family members which is culturally common. She thinks it would be easy for you to just pick up another one back in the US. [/quote]

OP here with an update, It's kind of this, but with a bit of crazy twist.

Approximately 35 years ago, MIL was done having babies and stored her big baby items (stroller, crib, rocker) at her mother’s house. About ten years later (when MIL’s kids were elementary/tweens and she was well past having kids herself), her sister’s daughter had an unexpected teen pregnancy. MIL’s sister came to their mother’s house and “borrowed” my MIL’s baby crib and stroller for her 16-year-old daughter (they are poor, they really could not afford to buy these items). When MIL found out, she was angry that her sister had taken her baby things. The sister never gave the items back, claiming they broke (entirely likely—the items were 20 years old and had gone through several kids by the time her sister took them).

Fast forward to the future, the teen mom, now in her 40s, had a change-of-life baby about a year before we had our baby. When MIL found out we were expecting, MIL demanded that her niece give her the new crib and stroller that the niece bought for her change-of-life baby so MIL could use it for her grandkid/our kid. Her niece said no, but I’ll sell it to you for 100 dollars in six months when my kid isn’t using it anymore (original sales price 129 dollars).

MIL stewed over this a lot, and we told her it was fine, we have a pack n’ play and a stroller, no need to buy another.

Loooong story short, it appears that MIL wanted our baby things to start the cycle over, by having big ticket baby items that she can then have the pleasure of denying giving to her sister’s great-grandchildren (whenever they might show up). Even though her grandchild is literally still using those items, it doesn’t matter, MIL needs them for her revenge plot.

[b]I know what you’re thinking, why didn’t MIL just buy some new items to withhold from her sister’s grandkids (she’s very well-off), but the answer is, MIL is as cheap as she is vindictive.[/b]

Anyway, I hope that helps answer the question of, why do you visit your MIL only once a year?
[/quote]  Actually no, we are thinking why the hell didn't you just ask her why the first time she asked you to leave the stuff with her?    Your MIL sounds fine, you sound petty and like someone who jumps at the chance to make MIL out to be the villain. smh   [/quote]

She sounds fine? WTF? She sounds like a nightmare MIL. I swear there is one poster who thinks anything a MIL does is just cheeky and when MIL says jump everyone else must say how high with exuberant enthusiasm.[/quote]

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