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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Love that he created an even more anxious  situation by gossiping about you to coworkers and then telling you about it. That's pretty unprofessional.

Girl, just do your job. These people don't matter. [/quote]

+1, he's gossiping about a medical condition (anxiety).  WTF kind of boss is that?!  He's a walking ADA violation.[/quote]

Um, he is not gossiping about a medical condition.  He is a boss asking an employee's peers about their relationships with the employee.  A good supervisor talks to the people s/he supervises to ensure that people are getting along.[/quote]

Anxiety is a medical condition.  It's none of his business nor his place.

[i]He then told me that [b]he’s asked a few of my other coworkers what they think about me[/b] and they all said I’m ‘highly anxious.’ I admit that it’s very true. My personal problems that I’ve been struggling for years have managed to spill into my work life and others have seemed to witness that.

[b]He then told me that this was said by more than person, so they can’t be lying[/b]. I told him that I don’t disagree with that they’ve said. I then told him “I don’t want to talk about it.” [b]He spoke for another few minutes about managing my anxiety[/b] and I left.[/i][/quote]

Again, he isn't gossiping.  He asked peers for their opinions, they gave their opinions.  The peers' use of the word "anxiety" or "highly anxious" does not at all constitute gossiping or an ADA violation.  The word anxiety is a noun that also can be used as an adjective.  [/quote]

There are very narrow situations where it would be okay for a boss to ask subordinates about another subordinate's work or behavior.  There is no situation where it is okay to ask about another subordinate's personality or perceived mental health and, if this information came up in the conversation anyway (i.e., employee volunteers the other person is anxious) it is not appropriate to tell the person what was said let alone "everyone is saying it so it must be true."

That last part - relaying what everyone said -- is gossip.

Also, the ADA covers mental health issues including anxiety.  The boss's intrusive little chat about anxiety makes it very difficult for HR to deny that OP has a covered disability, should OP decide to pursue accommodations or challenge adverse employment action. [/quote]

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