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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, sounds terrible. My parents were not Borderline, but I definitely grew up in a dysfunctional family with a lot of love. My late mom was amazing, did everything for me, sacrificed so much and loved her grandchildren. But she put up with a bad marriage— lots of screaming, broken things, even probably what most would consider abuse. But I love my dad too. He was generous, brilliant, funny, etc. but a terrible violent temper and not good to my mom, though they were totally codependent. To be honest my mom was also terrible to my dad, called him names, blamed him for everything and openly said terrible things. He is 82 and now very slow having suffered a stroke. Your mom is old, she may not be here long. Consider that. [/quote]

Why are some people able to see all this and still accept the terribly, terribly flawed parent as someone they love and who gave them something positive at the end of the day, while others cannot? It's interesting. I think BPD people cannot love. That's what's missing, and why they can be cut off without much ill effect. Sounds like your mom and dad both actually loved you, despite their terrible flaws. That's the glue.[/quote]

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