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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]pp here again. I have to say, thank you for your reasoned response. I apologize for my frustration and I agree was an overreaction. My frustration comes from the fact that it seemed like the OP was being shamed for her post. She was being called "irrational" and this particular post implied she was being intolerant, which several others seemed to agree with.

The reason that really gets to me is that it seems that [b]if women object to anything or try to self protect, they are basically insulted. They are called picky, snobs, intolerant. And of course, women are ruthlessly judged for failed marriages and for pursuing their own happiness above that of partner, children, family of origin. Essentially they can't win. Be picky and walk away from a problematic relationship and you are "judging by a single story", but stay in the relationship and then watch it break down and it's "why did you marry such a loser".
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It seems like a sexist double standard which was why the use of the TED talk was particularly galling. [/quote]

This is so true.

I'm a new poster who just happened to watch the Ted Talk today - only because it's the 20th most watched talk. I think that people can transcend anything including traumatic childhoods - there is not "one universal story" here in regards to mothers and sons. Yet OP is ASKING FOR personal stories here, from women who married men who have bad relationships with their mothers. I have a feeling that Adichie would approve of OP's question - she's soliciting personal stories as she searches for her own truth.

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