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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of you calling your adult children "duds" need to look in the mirror.

No, I'm not being mean. No kid is a dud in a vacuum, people grow and learn by those around them. A kid who grew up in impoverished neighborhoods with a lot of drugs often will turn to crime and drugs as an adult not because they were "duds" but because that is what they say growing up and that is what they know. Same with a lazy, spoiled, upper middle class-born 25 year old, kids pick up their personality.[/quote]

Well if you're a mom and you have sons with a dud DH, they're already seeing a terrible dynamic. The dud Dad does nothing and the mom is forced to do more and more and more and more. Instead of seeing the mom as a good role model and counterpoint to the dad, they identify with their father and imagine they'll be fine because some sucker will come along to take care of them and their kids, just like mom did. The mom really can't win. Choose wisely.[/quote]

+100. So odd that it plays out this way, but it's true. Another oddity is that dud sons frequently resent the mother just like the husband does. They resent the woman who keeps them afloat. Such a strange world that we live in.[/quote]

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