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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I am starting to view it as a fundamental lack of respect for me and my time. Literally he won’t make the effort to walk over to the fridge and see if we have milk? Can’t be bothered to do anything himself- forget foresight and thinking ahead of what needs to be done.
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I view it as you being so fundamentally fragile that simple and harmless questions are breaking you.

LMAO at all the DCUM women who claim to be Strong and Independent and also "OMG he asked if we have milk such questions impose a punishing emotional load I am exhausted and can't take it any more!"[/quote]

Gaslighting, awesome. Misogyny, awesome. Flip the script…if the q is so simple and harmless, why doesn’t the other person figure it out or TRY to figure it out? Or are you saying it’s a woman’s responsibility to manage and be aware of all, and the man doesn’t have a  responsibility to know and act on basic goings  on of the home?[/quote]

If you are a mature adult and psychologically stable, you don't regard questions from family members as burdensome or as the family member shirking their responsibility to "know stuff". Nor do you respond with any of the pissy, sarcastic suggestions in this thread - "where you left it / I don't know / look yourself / where'd you look / where they always are" etc etc. You're a grown up, don't act like a snarky teenager, just answer the question and forget about it.

The real problem here is not anything the OP's husband is doing but her hostility to him and determination to make a mountain out of a molehill. Is this guy drunkenly beating her? No he is asking possibly thoughtless questions fer chrissake. This is no big deal.[/quote]

How do I know you are a fan of that dude from Ohio- the one who said remember when families use to stick together. whats a little domestic violence. HE is stressed with all of the earning (except wife earns or out earns him statistically) burden, the pregnancies/birth/childrearing (oh wait two of those he doesnt do and again, statistically even WOHM do more childrearing and spend more hours with their children compared to SAHM decades prior), etc.

If you heard a kid ask their parents where the milk was you would come on here and talk about how passive and permissive those parents are. Tell that kid to find it himself! Stop acting like adult men are less capable then small children. Discussing what to do for the day or how to manage conflicting priorities is a reasonable conversation- where the milk is or do we have cereal or where is DDs favorite pink shirt are basic items a mature adult who is psychologically stable should be able to handle... solo. [/quote]

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