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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a parent of a rising freshman (CS major at top 20 national university) as well as an older child in top 5 LAC, I have to say that there certainly were many anxiety provoking moments. However, there were times that were pretty memorable such as spending time with you kid visiting colleges. It helped that my kid got into a state university rolling admissions as that took some of the anxiety out. I think overall it is how you perceive the whole process. If you take the approach that it is do or die to get into a certain college(s), then yes it will be a very stressful time. If you have a nice balance of reaches/targets/safeties, and you and your kid are not focused on only one college, then it can be an exciting time exploring colleges, majors, new places, etc. So bottom line is much of it depends on you and your kid's perception. IMHO, much of the stress the kids feel are from their parents. [b]So try to take a step back and enjoy the process a bit as it is a big milestone[/b].[/quote]

I have a rising senior and one in college. What surprised me the first time was how much I learned about my son. He's not a big talker so figuring out what was important to him and reviewing his essays gave me a window into his mind he'd never let me have before. I'm looking forward to that with DD. She already has three safeties she'd be happy to go to and look like they'll for our budget so we're not feeling very stressed about it. Safeties you love are really important.

Both my kids have ADHD so I absolutely was very hands on in the early phase of figuring out the list, helping DS put together the schedule, reviewed essays and proofed the common app. He took the lead as time went on and I had zero involvement (except to send money) once he was in college and he finished first year with all As and figured out his off campus apartment for next year.

If your kids needs help figuring out this brand new, massive research and project management job for the first time, that doesn't mean they aren't ready for college. They aren't supposed to be ready for college yet, they still have another year of growing and learning. If you do have a kid who is ready for you to be 100% hands off well good for you but don't assume that's the only way to be successful.[/quote]

My kids don’t need mommy to apply to college.[/quote]

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