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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’ll never get those years with your babies back.[/quote]

I hate this. Nobody gets any years back. That's how time works. You still have a baby if they go to daycare.[/quote]

np Yes but they are little only for a short time. If op had to work sure but, this might be her last baby. I would risk it op just to enjoy this time.  You can maybe take classes or do something part time to keep your skill levels up.

Congrats![/quote]

This. Saying "you still have a baby if they go to daycare" does not account for the feeling some of us have upon leaving our child in daycare to go to work. Lots (most) women do it, but to say "oh they are still your baby even though they are spending much of the day in the care of someone else" is to miss the point entirely -- some people just really want that time in the actual presence of their babies/toddlers and will always look back at that time and wish they'd had more quiet days at home with a little baby patting their face and blowing bubbles at them instead of sitting in an office doing their job.

Not everyone, but some. Nobody gets years back but people value different things during those years. I know not all women are into babies or felt strongly about a long maternity leave or staying home during that time (I had friends who felt ready to go back after two weeks and instead felt pressure to enjoy something that just wasn't their thing -- they are great moms, they just were not in love with the baby phase), but some do. And those women will never get those years with their little kids back if they go back to work because people kept telling them they have to. Even when, financially and personally, it turned out they didn't.[/quote]

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