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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think she should go but because she needs to help with planning a funeral. She needs to be with your dad in his final hours. [/quote]

PP, why do you think the sister — who has spent quite a bit of time with her father, possibly even saying their farewells, needs to be there during what may or may not be his final hours?  And why are you apparently not urging the OP —who hasn’t spent nearly as much time with her father recently— to do this as well? Does she not “need to be with her father in his final hours?  Similarly, the sister has taken on the lion’s share when it comes to supporting her father throughout the last several months.  Doesn’t the OP need to help with planning a funeral? And, if the OP is there to help, is there some special reason that her sister needs to be there as well? The vacation is for a week.  If her presence is needed for planning, a few days won’t change what needs to be done, although it might change the time frame slightly.

It’s quite possible that their dad is at peace, knowing that his daughter will be able to enjoy a much needed vacation.

tldr: The baby isn’t a newborn. Her sister has done a lot — much of it probably emotionally draining.The sister deserves a break. The OP needs to be more involved — “ staying nearby to help support (her) mother, and help arrange the wake /funeral” and spending time with her dad.

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