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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went to a small independent a Jesuit prep school that was regarded as the best school in the state. It had an incredibly kind culture and people who were mean were subjected to peer pressure to be more inclusive rather than the other way around. While mean people are everywhere, mean cultures are not inevitable, and school cultures can be dramatically different.

The culture in the DMV is one of the meanest I’ve ever encountered, and I say that as someone who grew up in another part of the country but went to grad school in DC and lived in many other places (the Bay Area, Texas, the rural mid-west, Chicago, Seattle, Boston, London, the northeast, and the Deep South) before moving back here. People here are meaner than their counterparts in other parts of of the country. They are more insecure, socially-competitive/social-climbing, and discontented than anywhere else we’ve lived. People here here have zero chill and the culture seems to foment unhappiness and outrage. It’s not surprising that toxic adults are raising mean middle-schoolers. That said, it would be nice to hear about the schools that do a better than average job of keeping the toxicity at a minimum, for boys and for girls.  Some schools are surely doing better than others.

Also, serious question for parents who have experience with both: is there less meanness in the area public middle schools? Is it easier to avoid meanness there?[/quote]

+1000

So true in our private, mean moms create mean girls and form groups leaving out the rest. I am not sure what it is about this city and the parents[/quote]

+1 on both of the above commenters.  People just aren’t comfortable or nice in their skin and just ridicule right out of the gate— even in field day, one mean mom was talking about “how weird that kid ABC runs.”  Wtf.

And the mean comments out of 7,8,9 yo kids mouths, you know theire regurgitating what they heard their petty mother saying to them or someone else. Beyond shallow.

What’s bad is that a few of these per grade or class is a big % of these small 40,60,90,120 grade private schools. Some classrooms or entire grades become toxic. Permanently.[/quote]

And how did you respond to the comment about kid ABC?  Nothing, right? You are part for f the problem when you let these things go by without comment. [/quote]

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