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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't judge those with help, but I do get annoyed when mothers with lots of outside help give advice, recommendations, or pass judgment on those of us who don't. [/quote]

Exactly!  I was livid when a mom from a family where a grandma watches the kids full time told me that she could never leave her kids with a stranger.

I told her that I could never make my mom an unpaid slave and force her to forgo earning social security.  The stunned look was priceless to watch.[/quote]

Forego social security?  Why?  Once you reach full SS age, which is around 67 for most people right now, you can earn as much as you want without reduced SS benefits.

Also, just because a grandma watches a kid doesn't mean she doesn't want to or isn't good at it.  Do you have a problem with the idea that someone wants their kid cared for by someone who loves them?  I don't understand why you felt it necessary to go into attack mode with this other mom.  You were "livid"?  I guess you took her statement as an attack on your childcare arrangement so of course it was critical to attack back.  That's how mommy discussions become mommy wars.[/quote]

The grandma was in her mid 50s, I happened to know that for a fact.[/quote]

Okay, well people in their mid 50s can't get SS so what are you talking about?[/quote]

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