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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do.  I SAH and have no outside help other than a monthly housekeeper.  And we could afford a nanny if we wanted one.  But I actually enjoy my kids and would feel guilty if I outsourced them.  But I also have a super supportive and involved husband.  What would I need a full time nanny for??[/quote]

Here’s what you aren’t understanding:  you are outsourcing your kids to a nanny.  A nanny brings something you can’t offer to your children (a second language, or preschool teacher skill set, or musical or artistic ability, etc) and works along side you.  You get to have one-on-one time with each child and venture out to places you couldn’t do without an extra set of hands.  The beach on a Tuesday for example.  And a nanny would do the kids laundry, organizing, room and toy cleaning, kids errands so you have more quality time to spend with your children.

I have a friend who is SAH with a nanny are she is a truly wonderful involved mom.  And her kids now speak fluent French (which neither she nor her husband speak).  Her nanny also stayed with her oldest while she was delivering the second and her older never had any jealousy issues since he still had his nanny’s attention in the beginning.  His world wasn’t thrown into chaos.

There are lots of benefits, PP.  If I could afford a nanny as a SAHM I would do it for my kids.

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+1. It isn’t outsourcing their care - it’s adding to it.  We can’t be everything to our kids.  The ability to hire a nanny with a different skill set than mine enriches their lives and makes our days calmer and happier.  I am still with one or more of my kids all day.  [/quote]

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