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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]True swinging is rare, super rare in a socially conservative city like DC. And yeah it’s generally filled with people who are non-mainstream in one way or another.

However, I think explicitly or implicitly “open” marriages are WAY more common. My guess is people talking about swinging, hitting on a neighbor, etc. are referring to this. Maybe one-off threesomes, or the spouses are reasonably free to stray within certain limits. That’s how we are. No one would call us “swingers”. [/quote]

No judgement, but I’m curious as to how you guys landed on this arrangement. Care to share?[/quote]

Not sure exactly. It’s been that way since before we were married, I think mainly for my benefit initially. More than anything, though, we are just “aligned” in thinking that sex is sex, it’s not a betrayal of the great relationship we have, and people are imperfect anyway. We both travel, and have needs that at various points throughout our relationship aren’t always perfectly aligned. We’re not religious, didn’t say traditional vows. Our arrangement isn’t even really much of an arrangement, it’s just an understanding that’s always been there. Very much DADT, never anyone within the sphere of our actual lives, nothing that the other person will see or have to deal with.

Surely not for everyone, but it works for us. Our relationship and sex life are both very strong. And it’s not like this is even a remotely frequent occurrence. We have kids and demanding jobs and the vast, vast majority of our leisure time is together. I’ve had a small handful of “encounters” over the years, suspect spouse is the same or even less. [/quote]

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