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[quote=Anonymous]When he said ‘you’re birthday is coming up!’ what did you say in response? Did you say ‘yes! I can’t wait to see what fun thing you have planned!’ Or was something like ‘yes, that’s right’ with no elaboration? I think in 6 months, you would know if this guy is thoughtful or not. And putting such high expectations (you’ll break up with him over this?!) without explicit instructions seems unfair to him. I get that you had a conversation about how your ex didn’t celebrate your birthday the way that you liked, but just one conversation without laying out what it is that you DO want…not enough to make it break up worthy. DH and I don’t exchange gifts on our birthdays, maybe we did when we were very first dating, but I can’t remember. We like to plan our own ways of celebrating- I like pick a restaurant, maybe he wants to do a specific activity etc.

You still have time though! Rather than sit and wait and see if he will pass muster or not, maybe reach out to him and ask? Say since you’ll be out of town for dinner on your birthday, could you make plans for X date when you get back? Maybe he is planning to surprise you with fancy breakfast at your door first thing in the morning before your flight. Maybe he will show up at your door tomorrow with roses and a gift, or be waiting at the airport with a sign when you come home again. But if he needs to do something like this in order to keep dating you, I would spell it out! [/quote]

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