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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because my kids were not receptive to "pushing" and it backfired.  Maybe your kids will practice the instrument but, mine didn't when they didn't want to play anymore.  It was a huge waste of time and money.  So that's one reason.  Second I realized that my kids are not mini-mes and should have autonomy to chose what they want to do.  And I want a relationship with them when they are older.[/quote]

OP here. My kid was originally not receptive to pushing, but with appropriate punishments for not responding to my pushing (ie: taking away phone privileges, not letting them take Driver's Ed, not letting them meet up with friends on weekends, and the occasionally yelling and fighting), they became receptive. And, IME, so will 99% of kids (barring a learning disorder). Kids WILL have to be receptive if their social life is on the line. [/quote]

Ok well I am not the type of parent to do this. I believe that kids are people and have free will.  They have to go to school and do their best but, there is no law saying they have to play piano.  I gave them the opportunities and they choose not to do it.  My relationship with them was more important than the piano lessons.

Kids do gravitate to what they like and will stick to that.  My dd likes singing and I did not have to force  her. My other dd likes drawing.

You don't sound like a very nice person and if I were your kids I would choose not to be around you when I left college.[/quote]

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