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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parent of two college graduates. We never helped them move in. We said our goodbyes at home and they were off. Freshman parents helping with move in is so foreign to me![/quote]

It's extremely common to move your freshman in.  Even if you live within driving distance from home.  But it's a day (sometime only a few hours) and then they are off to starting their college experience.  
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Neither of our parents helped us move in. Our children went to schools within driving distance and were allowed to bring cars are freshmen. They knew how small their dorms would be from orientation visits and took just the basics. The went shopping for what they needed locally or used Amazon to supplement.

We live a minimalist lifestyle as do many of our friends and their children. It would be so uncommon for us to help a move in to a temporary living space. They weren’t furnishing a house or even an apartment:

When I saw some of the post move in day pictures of dorms decorated like they were vying for a spread in AD, I just shook my head. It was all virtue signaling and a competition between moms for the social credit and validation they so desperately needed.  We received our first day of school pictures but otherwise, we left it to them who are now thriving.

[b]If it works for you great, but realize some do it differently.[/b][/quote]

And vice-versa.  Please take your own advice.  Many kids WANT their parents to give them a hand with move in.  I just shook my head at your entire post, but if it works for you, great!   :roll: [/quote]

Right---the only time I didn't see parents at freshman move in was with DC#1 one freshman roommate---saw the parents for 10 mins.  However, this was Kid #4 for them (12 years younger than oldest sibling) and Kid#3 was a Senior at same school, so it was Kid#3 who was in the dorm room helping for 2+ hours (not the parents). Every other kid on the floor had 1-2 parents helping/enjoying the watching their kid move in.  Helping your kid move in does not hinder their process with becoming a thriving adult.  In our family, just because our kid turned 18 does not mean we are not there to support them thru events in life (with appropriate involvement as requested by the kid).  [/quote]

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