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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parent of two college graduates. We never helped them move in. We said our goodbyes at home and they were off. Freshman parents helping with move in is so foreign to me![/quote]

It's extremely common to move your freshman in.  Even if you live within driving distance from home.  But it's a day (sometime only a few hours) and then they are off to starting their college experience.  
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Neither of our parents helped us move in. Our children went to schools within driving distance and were allowed to bring cars are freshmen. They knew how small their dorms would be from orientation visits and took just the basics. The went shopping for what they needed locally or used Amazon to supplement.

We live a minimalist lifestyle as do many of our friends and their children. It would be so uncommon for us to help a move in to a temporary living space. They weren’t furnishing a house or even an apartment:

When I saw some of the post move in day pictures of dorms decorated like they were vying for a spread in AD, I just shook my head. It was all virtue signaling and a competition between moms for the social credit and validation they so desperately needed.  We received our first day of school pictures but otherwise, we left it to them who are now thriving.

If it works for you great, but realize some do it differently.[/quote]

Oh I get that everyone does it differently.  Btw, I'm not an over the top (decorate the dorm as if it's for a magazine/competition).  I'm a bring towels, mattress topper, pillows, sheets, blankets and a few other comforts along with clothing/toiletries. However, my kids would have wanted me to help with move in even if the college was only 1 hour away.  We are just that type of family--one can assist their college kids with basics like move in and still have them thrive. 
  Kid 1 has graduated college and is thriving. And  managed all move-in/move outs in college after fall Soph year--and that was only needed to drive vehicle to get stuff from storage---impossible for a 19 yo to rent a car and none of his friends had cars on campus---I was literally in the dorm room fall soph year for 15 mins; my kid flew in from another event, I flew in earlier that day, met them at airport with car loaded with all their stuff; dropped kid and stuff at dorm and flew home the next day.  Oh and I think I ran 1 errand to get stuff from target and Best Buy.  Literally saw my kid for less than an hour for "move in".

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