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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are so many layers here, OP. Have you seen a therapist?

Multiple things can be true at once . . . that your brother has helped your mother (to not be lonely, probably first and foremost), that your mother has enabled your brother, that your mother's empathy for your brother's situation seems to reward him for not taking care of himself like you have, that your mother isn't trying hard enough to understand YOUR situation and point of view.

You have every right to draw a line in the sand after many instances of being treated unfairly. Do what you need to do, OP. It's possible, though, that you could reach an understanding with your mother if you talked things through. Only you know if this is the straw that breaks the camel's back.
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OP, I am in your spot, with a couple difference: I have children, my brother does not.  And my parents are currently fighting on the allocation, with one parent wanting to give more to my brother and the other saying 50%/50%  The poster above is right -- you need to see a therapist to understand all of the layers and your views.  I really get you on the unequal treatment and being punished for being self sufficient, but it's also true that your mother thinks your brother is incapable for supporting himself and his grandkids.  Can you imagine being 50 and having your mom think that about you?  Do you have kids that are old enough where one worries you more than the other?

I am on your side, truly, but you also have to see that you start from a a place of functionality and it sounds like your brother does not.[/quote]

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