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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree at this point you should just move on. Better for both of you.

But I also want to point out that sometimes people are just extremely bad at making and maintaining friendships. I used to have a friend who started turning me down for hangouts and not suggesting an alternative time, and also said "I'm just super busy right now -- I don't foresee getting together anytime soon." Which I took to mean "don't invite me anymore" which I didn't. Then a few months later she popped up and was like "why don't I hear from you anymore? we should hang out!" And then we did, and then I started inviting her out again and she'd turn me down again and eventually did the "I'm super busy" thing again. Ok fine. And AGAIN she popped up a few months later asking why I hadn't been reaching out. WTF? Maybe she has ADHD or something. It was like a boyfriend who kept breaking up with me and then showing up randomly when he was lonely. No thank you.

So it might not be you. It might be her.[/quote]

I am a lot like your friend - and yes it is partly ADHD, partly just getting tired and not having as much social energy as I wish I had. I find group dinners to be the easiest to commit to - or else an activity like hiking or paddling - and coffees mostly just exhaust me. There are a lot of people I would like to see but then months go by.

I apologize for all the friendly flakes who send out confusing messages.[/quote]

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