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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, nobody knows the answer and it's not worth the energy trying to find out why she does not want to hang with you 1 on 1. You HAVE to accept it.

There are some perfectly sweet and kind people in my lives that I can socialize with in a group setting, but not 1 on 1. Our personalities just don't mesh that way in an intimate setting. What's the point of trying to get to the bottom of this? You can both be lovely but not mesh well. [/quote]

It could be this, but maybe it's not. And really, it doesn't matter what the reason is, or if there is a reason at all. It's not working out. You can occasionally keep inviting her, but if you're starting to feel awkward about it, then stop. No harm, no foul.

There are some perfectly sweet and kind people in my lives that I socialize with at neighborhood functions, but I'm not interested in coffee, etc. Not because our personalities don't mesh but because I am freaking BUSY, with a lot of sweet and kind people who I am already very close friends with but who I barely have time to have coffee with. I love seeing my sweet and kind neighbors when I walk the dog and at neighborhood functions, which I work hard to attend because I like my neighbors and want to be friendly with them, but I have to do a calculus--I saw you, sweet neighbor, last week at the neighborhood gathering. I haven't seen my close friends Larla and Larlette and Larleen in weeks/months. If I have time to have coffee, I need to have it with one of them, not you who I just saw. I'm sorry that it has to be this way--truly sorry!--but that is the way that it is, given my work obligations (relentless) and family obligations (I don't have young kids, but I do have grown children and parents and siblings who I also need to schedule time with) and given my desire to maintain an exercise schedule and engage in a couple of hobbies.

My suggestion is NOT to take your neighbor's responses personally in any way. There is no downside to NOT taking it personally. It's just not working out, and that's all. Enjoy seeing her when you can.[/quote]

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