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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh. I hate this entire debate. Why can't people just live their own lives in peace, and accept that sometimes people will be weird and call them by the wrong name? There are millions of people at risk of starvation in Asia and Africa, more than usual because of the war in Ukraine and profiteering on the grain market. Why don't we do something about REAL issues instead of fighting over what one kid said to the other? [/quote]

Just to answer this- because the local school board governs schools not Africa or Ukraine. Those are global concerns. Feel free to advocate on their behalf, write legislators, etc. I think its interesting that you say things like "lives in peace" being equated with being called the wrong name or gender- likely, repeatedly and in the cases we are talking about, maliciously. 
Do you know how many times as a server I accidently said yes sir or yes mam to the wrong gender because I was on auto. Or said youre welcome when I meant thank you because my mind was 100 different places? Those are mistakes. Slips.

Being introduced to someone named Carol and then purposefully calling them CARL is malicious and means that you think that you are more important than they are. It isnt weird. Its purposeful. Deliberate.

I have a named like Suzanne but I go be a subset name, Suzie. I use the subset name in all my correspondence with one individual and they continue to use my full name. It is annoying and it feels condescending. Im not responding to his email by saying Johnathan when he goes by John or Joe because of John. Its common decency and respect. 
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The irony of your post is that you call for "common decency and respect," but apparently agree the School Board should regulate such matters in the SR&R and has the ability to discern whether a student who is the equivalent of your e-mail correspondent is acting "maliciously" or not.

If they just told kids to treat others as they would like to be treated themselves, wouldn't it be more direct?  But, no, they have to earn points with Fairfax Pride by devoting untoward hours in work sessions and Board meetings to line-editing the SR&R.  Depending on whether and how this policy gets enforced, they are just setting themselves up for more litigation. [/quote]

Do you really think that your suggestion is worthwhile policy? Do you think that if schools just said kids treat each other like you want to be treated there'd be no bullying there'd be fighting there to be no teasing there'd be no making fun of somebody else for bad grades or crappy shoes or being poor? 
Like how simple must your world be if you think that everything that happens in a school can be solved by saying treat one another like you would like to be treated.

The reason I'm saying the email suggestion is because even if somebody who's an adult who can understand that this individual is being condescending and obnoxious just like previous posters who said that they won't call people the name that they want to be called because they don't like that name you can go ahead and look up a post on DC Urban moms that talks about that then a child doesn't have the ability to be like well I don't care about that person that comes with maturity and being able to understand that some people are just a$$holes and it's not a reflection of you it's a reflection of them

With children you need to be even more clear about the boundaries I don't care if another kid introduces himself as frog. My child should respond and be like okay frog what's up?

The problem that you have is people don't want to treat those that are different from them like themselves because they see themselves as separate from others. Malicious would be repeatedly using names or pronouns that the other person doesn't introduce himself with. [/quote]

You do realize you're ranting, right?

Also, you've supplied your own definition of what "malicious" means.  How comfortable should we be that gloss this will be understood and applied consistently?  Or will it be another example of a disciplinary policy that some parents claim is applied selectively or in a discriminatory fashion?

In any event, this is the only type of issue this School Board apparently has time for.  Learning loss, leaking roofs, declining SOL scores, trailers - save it all for some other day that never materializes where they actually talk about the problems that matter to more families.  [/quote]

His/her rant is correct. The reason schools have to deal with this type of behavior daily is because parents who act like treating others with respect is a waste of their time...it's the "if it doesn't directly affect me I don't care" parents. Bullying affects a lot of kids get some empathy.[/quote]

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