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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm in a similar situation.

My kid and his younger cousins do love each other. We only live about 30-40 minutes away and we only see them 3-4 times a year.

My sister doesn't work and has all the free time in the world, but has untreated mental health issues.

Typically her husband will bring the kids for holiday get-togethers and the family beach week.

At this point, I just try to make sure the cousins get to see each other every few months.

I've pretty much given up on my sister, though. [/quote]

Without more details it sounds like you are unconscionably unconcerned about a closer relative’s serious mental health issue. Would you similarly blow her off if she had chronic breast cancer? [/quote]

You're right that you don't have the details. My sister has bipolar disorder. I have been her caretaker many, many times--basically for most of our teens-twenties. I have taken her to the hospital when she was suicidal. I have fostered her children when she's gone on manic sprees.

She is over 40 and chooses not to medicate because she loves her mania--loves it when she's "up" and the "life of the party." Then she goes into hiding for months at a time when she is in her depressive stage. I love her but can't be her caretaker. It is what it is. [/quote]

God, her poor kids.  Your explanation makes it even more apparent that you need to keep making the effort.  It sounds like those kids really need you even if you are only there every few months.[/quote]

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