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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm in a similar situation.

My kid and his younger cousins do love each other. We only live about 30-40 minutes away and we only see them 3-4 times a year.

My sister doesn't work and has all the free time in the world, but has untreated mental health issues.

Typically her husband will bring the kids for holiday get-togethers and the family beach week.

At this point, I just try to make sure the cousins get to see each other every few months.

I've pretty much given up on my sister, though. [/quote]

Without more details it sounds like you are unconscionably unconcerned about a closer relative’s serious mental health issue. Would you similarly blow her off if she had chronic breast cancer? [/quote]

You're right that you don't have the details. My sister has bipolar disorder. I have been her caretaker many, many times--basically for most of our teens-twenties. I have taken her to the hospital when she was suicidal. I have fostered her children when she's gone on manic sprees.

She is over 40 and chooses not to medicate because she loves her mania--loves it when she's "up" and the "life of the party." Then she goes into hiding for months at a time when she is in her depressive stage. I love her but can't be her caretaker. It is what it is. [/quote]

I don’t think people who make the comments above yours deal with family members who refuse to care for themselves.  You can’t force your sister to visit an oncologist either.[/quote]

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