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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, they have nerve suggesting something for which the burden would have fallen mainly on you and then being mad when you gave your response. What they were mad at is that you didn’t agree to their plan. That’s unreasonable. But maybe your tone was testy because you were pissed by their suggestion?[/quote]

OP. Yes, they were mad because I didn't agree to their plan. More importantly they were mad because for the first time in the 22 years since I had married into their family, I openly said NO to a family matter - one that would affect our household.

All those years my SILs have never shown any interest in our life and my attempts to form a closer bond with them were ignored. So yes, I was pissed by their their suggestion.[/quote]

Sometimes silence speaks louder than words.  I would have remained silent about their offer for you to host the MIL.  And then have DH respond.
I disagree with other responders here to just let it go.  I'm not saying to hold a grudge but to understand that just letting this kind of behavior go essentially normalizes it. 
The result is that this behavior becomes routine.  The SILs will gang up again, then expect you to just get over it again.

Be polite but maintain boundaries.  Diplomacy without emotions.[/quote]

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