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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is not telling us the whole story. How long has this been going on? If it predates the baby, why did you have a second child without addressing it? Was this a planned child? Did her husband want this baby? What issues predate the kids? All of this is relevant. [/quote]

I do not know how long this has been going on. For a long time, he has used depression as an excuse for why he needed certain things or couldn’t do certain things. It all came to a head after the baby was born, because “depression” became an excuse. He needed to go have alone time during busy kid times. He needed to sleep in. He couldn’t cook or clean up, even when he was up until 2am. I let it all slide because I thought it was truly helping him. Like going for a walk, getting rest - I was taking on more of a burden so he could take care of his health, even though I was exhausted.

Now I’ve found out none of it was true. “Depression” was a cover so he could use cannabis. And now he’s using it around the baby, which is unacceptable to me and he knows this. I tried to have an open mind, and told him if cannabis truly helped him with his mental health, let’s go see a doctor and get him well. He wasn’t interested in his mental health, he was interested in getting high daily without consequence.

He very much wanted this baby. He has been sobbing about how he worked so hard for this life and now it’s over.

It’s not the weed. It’s the behavior around it. If he were staying up all night eating peanut butter sandwiches and therefore sleeping in all day, it would be a problem. If he was sneaking off in the afternoon to eat peanut butter sandwiches for 2 hours under the guise of running errands, it would be a problem. If he was neglecting a baby because he was in the backyard eating peanut butter sandwiches, it would be a problem. If he was blowing all of our money on jars of fancy peanut butter, it would be a problem. [/quote]

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