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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I thought about where to post this but think this might be the best forum. I am 46 and have a 5 year old and 11 year old. I really dislike being a mom. I love my kids. I think they are amazing but I can't stand parenting. I try hard to be patient and loving but I feel like I don't have any ability to just do whatever I want to do. I know this sounds really selfish. I get that I brought these kids into the world - they didn't have the choice. But how do I get to a better place? How do I stop resenting being a mom? I hate constantly telling them to not fight. To be kinder to each other. They don't listen and then I lose my cool.

My husband is angry that I don't spend more time volunteering at their schools, playing board games with them and getting more involved with their activities. I don't know how to do as much as he does - I simply don't care. I hate board games. I spent 3 hours volunteering at their field day and I wanted to poke my eyes out.

It's getting to a place where I just want to run away. I feel like any effort I make is not enough. Is this normal or do most moms love being a mom? I really regret a lot of my decisions in life. I just can't wait for them to grow up so I have the freedom to do what I want to do. [b]Jeez, I sound like a horrible person.[/b] [/quote]

Yes, you are. Also, you could be an NPD person. [/quote]

She is not horrible. Modern motherhood sucks. You are expected to do it all. Many people do not have families nearby to help. Women are expected to do it all: work and be the perfect mom. It sucks. Men have not adapted to women being breadwinners as well. It is not like the past where one's whole life was about being a mom and she was supported by doing it. Women would enjoy motherhood more if it was the way it was. Now we are expected to do everything. There is nothing normal about this. Her feelings are perfectly valid and normal for a lot of women. [/quote]

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