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He is obviously going to jump in 100% and take care of the kids, support his ex physically/emotionally through chemo, be her friend, and do whatever he needs to do. [/quote]

He should, obviously, take care of the kids, but [b]he has no obligation to support his ex physically and emotionally and be her friend. That ended when the divorce was final.[/b]  [/quote]

This sounds insane and just unrealistic. Obligated, no? But this is someone you shared a life with and have children with. I'm divorced, as are several of my friends, and I can't imagine myself or any of them having this way of thinking if the ex/father of the kids had cancer. [/quote]

I was the XW who just dealt with something similar.  My XH is remarried and has a new family.  The extent of my helping him when he went through his treatments was to ask how he was doing on the rare occasions I saw him, and to support my kids with their complicated feelings about the situation.  I really don’t think that makes me heartless.  But he’s no longer my husband and he’s someone else’s responsibility.  If the tables were flipped my XH, who I get along with just fine, is probably about the last person I’d lean on for help.

So I don’t see why they OPs boyfriend has any responsibility outside of making sure his kids are okay.

Op how old are the kids and how long have they been divorced?[/quote]

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