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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's tricky and definitely a good thing to vent about to your people.

I can't see myself caring for a man who would drop the mother of his children when she's going through cancer. I'd want him to be compassionate, not just for his kids' sake, but for their mother and his former partner. Of course, as a new partner, there would be moments of insecurity I'm sure, but I'd just have to adult my way through those.

I wouldn't go into it pulling back. He might interpret that as you not caring very much. At this point he probably doesn't know what he needs, so I'd just play it by ear.

I lead a Girl Scout troop and I've gotten to observe many different types of not-together parents . . . from exes where the mom has MS and needs a lot of support from dad, to a non-traditional (one asexual plus one bisexual) who split up but share a duplex, to friends who got pregnant but never married and remain friends, to your more traditional divorced couple that tolerates each other and is married to other people, to a very contentious divorce where Dad can ONLY see the child during his visitation hours. I'm on the outside looking, so I can't tell you what happened along the way, but I definitely admire the couples that are able to remain friendly and even supportive of each of other. Best of all is when they're friends. I see their kids feeling very secure and not feeling like they have to "choose." I'd be glad to be dating a man who has figured out how to be a good co-parent with his ex, and I'd try to handle this situation with dignity and grace.[/quote]

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