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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't you work from a shared office space or library?  That would create some distance.  Also, if you let him take care of the cooking and cleaning, wouldn't that take some stuff off of your plate?

What are we missing here?  [/quote]

A shared office is an expense we can't afford and a library/public space won't work for me - I'm on the phone all day and need private space. He has an office to go to but refuses to use it. [b](he took over my home office, now I have to work in the kitchen or float wherever nobody else is)[/b]

This really has nothing to do with him taking things off my plate, I never asked or complained about what was on my plate. I've raised kids for 14 years practically on my own while he worked away from the house. My kids and I had a routine that worked, and his being home all the time has completely disrupted this. Having a husband home all the time to help with cooking seems like a luxury, but that wears off. My kids' friends have take-out, pizza, grilled cheese for dinner, etc. They won't have friends over because we have fancy Sunday/sit-down dinners every single day of the week.  PS - He LOVES cooking, which is the only reason he does this. He would not take care of dinners unless it is something he truly enjoys.

Maybe this sounds selfish, but I loved and needed my space from him. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, etc etc. the opposite has the opposite effect. [b]I'm also an introvert and he's an extrovert. I cannot be his social outlet all day.[/b]. not what I signed up for when we married several years ago. 
ugh, thanks for letting me vent[/quote]
These are your two main issues. I totally get it. I have WFH for years, and having everyone all at home at once was a huge and difficult change for me. But DH understands that I need alone time...well, understands might not be the right word, but he recognizes it and accommodates it. He takes the kids out on the weekend to give me time alone to myself. I will sometimes say I just can't sit with the family for dinner, because I am completely people'd/social interactioned out for the day. Try to make this a conversation about what you need rather than what he's doing.[/quote]

Good point. Your husband seems much less selfish than mine though. Mine wouldn't take the kids anywhere on the weekend unless is a sports game. If he takes them anywhere else, he expects me to come. He knows that I'm unhappy but simply doesn't care :( [/quote]

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