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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The one thing my mother told me was to use caution when living with boyfriends.  [b]It's so easy to move in and MUCH harder to move OUT.  Inertia can carry you for a long time in a bad relationship.  Needing to pull up and move can keep people in the wrong relationship for a long time.[/b]

So if she's reasonably sure this relationship will around for a good long while, and he is too, then I don't think it's a problem.  Or if she's willing to pack it up and move it out when she realizes it's not the right fit, fine.

But this is just counsel if she asks.  If she doesn't, [b]I'd do your best to be supportive and stay in her confidence.  She'll need that if things don't work out.[/b][/quote]

+1  Also, if you live in the same area, make sure she knows she always has a home with you if she needs it. That inertia/hard to move out thing is real. One of my good friends was stuck in that college boyfriend relationship far longer than she wanted to because she felt stuck. We became friends when we lived in the same apartment complex and she ended up living on my sofa for a month while she figured out a new apartment. Knowing she had an easy place to go to absolutely helped her finally make the move. [/quote]

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