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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what percentage of the income do you make?[/quote]

Not relevant. [/quote]

I am a SAHM. My DH is quite capable person for some domestic things - helping with the baby, cooking...ok these two things mainly. Despite all kinds of strategies - making lists, chore wheel, having meetings, texting, spreadsheets, to do lists -  he was not consistent in stepping up.  I hated that instead of being married adults, I took on the role of being a taskmaster. So I basically outsourced most things and I manage and supervise these people.

At the end of it all, I want for myself - a well run household, a good marriage, good health, happy family, kids who are enriched and thriving, being able to develop my own passions/hobbies/education, financial success, having time for family and friends, being able to withstand ups and downs of life and preparedness for all stages of life.  In this life, we all walk alone.   Chores are small potatoes.  Minimize your expenses on other things and spend the money on outsourcing.

However, remember that even with outsourcing, you will be the one in the supervisory role.   Accept that. Move on.  Men don't want to do the work at home?  Then they can step up and be excellent providers and basically shut up about how much we spend. [/quote]

You're a sahm. You should be doing the bulk of the household stuff as that's part of what you all claim is the bonus for you being at home.[/quote]

Having a SAHP doesn’t mean the WOHP gets off the hook 100%. Put your damn clothes in the hamper, if your drop food on the floor pick it up, etc.[/quote]

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